Thursday, December 20, 2007


I was reading another blog this week. The author was telling anyone who was interested about the exploits of her husband. Not only did she write about how many times he had messed up that week, she went on to number them (1..2..3...) and with great relish she shared how foolish he had been and how much he had let her down.

As I read this blog, it was funny at first. Then I couldn't help but cringe as I thought about the effect that her words had to have on her poor husband. A husband needs his wife's respect...that's how God made him.

The Bible tells a husband to love his wife, but the wife is told to respect her husband. It doesn't say anything about the wife having to "earn" her husband's love...and neither does it say that the husband must "earn" his wife's respect. Like the Nike commercial...we are told to just do it.

You might ask, "What can it hurt just to tell a few friends or family members what he has done this time?" Have you ever noticed that when you are with a group of women and one tells something derogatory about her husband, others feel the need to chime in and try to out-do the others? Before long, we have turned these men that we love into a joke...into bumbling, clueless buffoons who can do nothing right.

Marriages today have a 50% chance of ending in divorce. I can't help but wonder how much disrespectful behavior plays a part in that statistic. With our mouths we can build up...or tear down.

This was a reminder to myself to watch what I say about my husband to others...because it does matter.

1 comment:

Elysa said...

Yes, words do matter. Good post, Deidra!